DON'T (throw away the scales)

Y'know, I'm getting quite angry about this now.

I've seen it for years of course, and I even fallen for it a few times myself (always without result of course).

What is it?

The exhortation to 'throw away the scales'.

To be 'free of the scales'.

Fucking bullshit.

Sorry but it is.

YES, this works for some people - and I'll tell you which people too.

* It's a great move for girls who are or have been underweight, too thin.

* Those who've lived with, battled, eating disorders.

* Young girls just starting out on a 'lifetim'e of dieting - yes, you 'throw away the scales' people, you draw them in.

I definitely see exactly why for these people, ditching the scales (and all the associations) is a good thing.

But I do NOT agree it's good for us all.

Especially not for those of us who find ourselves loving food, hating our bodies, overweight and in denial in our forties.

I see it as incredibly bad advice.

We ALREADY hide from the facts.

We already pretend reality isn't real.

That, actually, we'll even tell anyone we want to lose weight ... AFTER WE'VE LOST SOME WEIGHT.

Why?

Because we can't bear to stand on the scales.

I say FUCK THAT BULLSHIT.

It's not for us.

What WE need IS that reality check.

First, we need to face facts.

Get on those scales, yes cry if need be (I did) and then it's a fact - it's done.

And get back on them EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Why?

Precisely BECAUSE weight isn't precise!

Yeah you *can* weigh weekly if you want (and play all those tricks every single person who does a weekly weigh in at Weight Watchers does).

But the daily ... what it does is take the emotion out of it.

We DO fluctuate - sometimes a lot - day to day.

And SEEING that every day (but a more gradual overall decrease) helps.

Helps understand that it's just a number.

Understand that it's a fact.

It has no emotional meaning.

AND ... weighing daily stops us from getting so scared again that we put it off ... and put it off ... and get more and more scared ...

It's not scary it's a fact.

You wanna know the truth or not?

To come back to the start ... as a 40-something with weight issues over the years?

It's NOT helpful to be gleefully told to 'throw the scales away'!

It doesn't work for us.

We have several decades of fucked-up relationships with food, with weight, with OURSELVES to talk about first before a GIMMICK that most likely will see us PUT ON WEIGHT.

We're the hiders.

The ones who eat great food (but too much of it).

We don't need to be encouraged to hide any more.

ETC.

You get my drift.

So get the scales back out.

Confront the fear.

Learn to notice each day - oh, three pounds lighter, oh two pounds heavier.

Learn to notice your body - one day heavier, one lighter.

Learn to not be fearful; it's a fact.

And also - for most of us- we can then set a goal, and achieve it.

In tune with our bodies, in tune with what we're eating.

In tune with our goals.

At last.

THEN .. EASY.